Your level of happiness is dependent on what you focus on
I was recently at a seminar where the presenter made this statement, “Your level of happiness is dependent on what you focus on.” That comment really resonated very deeply with me, and so as I pondered on the statement I wondered “what” I was focused on. I ask you the same question, “What are you really focused on and putting your energies into?”
We are all very unique and individual. Who we are today is a direct result of our own particular life’s journey. No two people are exactly the same and although they share similarities they are all different. The same applies to our genetic makeup and our personalities. Our genetic makeup is the mixing of DNAs from our parents, grandparents, great grandparents and so on to form our very own unique DNA signature. It is the emotion held within our DNA that at times stops us from achieving our goals.
Let me explain. I am a kinesiologist and my clinic is called Kinique, which stands for ‘Kinesiology uniquely for you.” As a professional kinesiologist, I specialise in identifying blockages in your emotional, energetic and physical systems of your body. This is achieved by a technique called muscle monitoring. A muscle that is working with integrity reacts to stress. By integrity it means that a muscle that is functioning well and is sending and receiving accurate messages from your brain, will react to a stress by switching off the muscle so as not to tear or injure it. The brain does not always know that exact nature of the stress it only knows that there is a stress occurring. The stress could be physical stress like an actual injury, a chemical stress like a reaction to poison or emotional stress like a memory trigger. Using muscle monitoring helps to identify where, what and why you are carrying stress within you.
Goals with muscle
Imagine your brain is an advanced filing system/a super computer, it has the capacity to store a staggering amount of information, so we need to isolate or hone in on the stress specific to your immediate requirements. You need to be able to recognise your personal stress triggers and behaviours to be able to do something about them. Within a kinesiology balance this is achieved by working with goals, specific goals and in most cases positive goals. By forming and stating the positive goal and including any areas of issues concerning those goals your body will then show, via, muscle monitoring where you are storing the stress and the what imbalance your body is experiencing. This leads the way to the priority correction necessary for you to once again feel well and in balance. Don’t you find this absolutely mind blowing? I am still constantly amazed and in awe of our bodies fantastic ability to heal.
Your body is made up of many systems that work together to give you homeostasis. That is your body’s amazing way of adjusting to life’s curveballs and to function at the best of its ability. Some of those systems are the respiratory system, where you breathe in air and it is converted by your body to give oxygen to the blood, (that is a very simplified explanation), the cardiovascular system which works as the pump for the blood throughout your body, the digestive system which digests, obtains nutrients and then expels the waste products to name but a few. However for your body to function at its very best or optimum, these systems have to work together, to support each other and in some cases to carry extra load in cases of non functionality of another system. Imagine what would happen if one or more of these systems have their harmony affected by a memory stress trigger? Now the brain and the spinal cord are like the master controllers. Remember we talked about a memory as being able to turn off a muscle? What if a phrase said to you at some stage of your development was limiting your ability to achieve optimum wellness? What if the memory or the emotional response of that memory could cause your digestive system to malfunction? It may not be the whole system just one small part of the system. That statement becomes not only a stress trigger, but also can lead to habitual behaviours and reactions.
Digestive health and stress
Here is an example to help show you what could happen. The waste disposal aspect of the digestive system, is affected by an old stress memory trigger and instead of being able to get rid of or dispose of the waste bi-products, they stay in your colon. The very act of staying and not moving along causes toxins to build up. The colon is a very dark moist place and an ideal environment for the nurturing of bacteria, so the waste sits, eventually putrefies and because it can’t get away by being expelled from your body, your body ends up having to reabsorb it. The liver now has to do extra work to re-filter the toxins and it adds an extra load to your lymphatic system as well. Some of it gets stored by your body and you end up at the end of it feeling YUCK! Your stomach bloats, your head aches and of course your weight either stays the same or you put more on. Is this starting to sound familiar to you?
The most amazing aspect of this is that the memory or emotional trigger is not always only your memory, remember your DNA. Some of those memory/emotional triggers may in fact be passed on genetically. Maybe you were often told “you are just like Auntie Flo, she was big too” so your mind/body connection could be “What is the point, I am just like Auntie Flo, she couldn’t lose weight so I won’t either”. What is required is to give your body a new memory. Ok so maybe Auntie Flo couldn’t, but you are only a portion of that DNA. You have the ability to write your own life story.
Focus on your ability to achieve your desired weight, focus on what you can and want to achieve to make yourself happy. Learn to recognise your personal stress triggers and behaviours, so that you can take action. Be mindful and aware of habits that could be affecting you. Raise your own self-belief and ideals and choose to move forward in your life journey happy in the knowledge that you have the ability and desire to write your own uplifting story. Knowing too that this uplifting story will also be passed on genetically to the future generations.
So I ask the question again, “What are you focused on? Is it ‘I can’ or ‘Why I can’t’?”
Adapted from the Australasian Sustainable Wellness Academy’s Accredited Diploma of Wellness Leadership Program – The roadmap, tool kit and mentoring for managers and leaders to effectively integrate wellness into lives and workplaces.